Becoming a mum is incredible, and most ladies would quickly nod heads and agree that bringing a bub into the world is up there with one of the most special moments life has to offer. There’s nothing quite as honey sweet as the first tender weeks spent together, learning each other’s faces and wondering how you got so damn lucky or the warmth of the third (teeny tiny) body now occupying your bed and your every thought. Life may even seem angelic through the new mama rose-tinted specs… if only you could keep those pretty shades on forever.
Then come the sleepless nights, burp-vomits or poo-splosions that rip you painfully from the serenity of parenthood straight into an uncomfortable panic… locked in the bathroom - we’ve all been there! Maybe even more than once. It’s no small feat adjusting to motherhood, suddenly things aren’t about you and everything is about bub. Gone are the care-free days of sleep-ins and too many wines in cramped bars, right now your focus is feeding baby, cleaning baby, entertaining baby and the hardest part, resting baby. Why is it so hard to get a tired baby to sleep?!
However, this isn’t the end of the world and this certainly won’t be your life forever because, this is just a season and all seasons pass. If you are feeling a little ‘less yourself’ post-bub we have curated a list of five things to help you survive motherhood and take care of yourself. As explained so aptly, by air hostesses everywhere: you need to put your own life mask on to be able to effectively help those closest to you. Nobody wins if you don’t take care of yourself. You simply can’t fill from an empty cup!
Keep your sanity by sharing your experiences in a loving local support group for mums. These groups, whether physical or virtual, will open you up to connect to women in similar situations. Ask the ‘awkward’ questions, make each other laugh at the silliness and build life-long friends. We recommend having a look through 10th Month, an online resource supporting new mums packed with insight, tips and suggestions. Download the Mush app too, a great way to meet new Mum friends.
Plus joining the Livvy + Harry social community is another great way to connect with mamas of young bubs. We post the occasional quote, tip and love to support our beautiful ladies.
Look after your mental health.
Following the birth of your baby, keeping a check on your mental health is as important as your physical well-being. Expectations can be really misleading for new mamas; everyone wants to tell you how to raise your baby and how you should look, act and raise your little one. While their intentions are likely in the right place you don’t need this added pressure. The best thing to do is rest as much as you can, accept help when offered, understand that perfect doesn’t exist, and eat food that enriches your body and calms your mind.
You heard it here first, ladies, permission to spend a little time and money on making yourself feel both prepared and happy has been granted by yours truly. The transition into motherhood happens sloooowly and then all-at-once! Before you know it there’s a pink hand reaching up to your sweaty (read: glowing) face. Dissolve the stress with a sneaky bath (when you can), buy yourself a fruity smoothie because your blender is a one way ticket to a screaming baby and take advantage of the small things like fresh linen. Becoming a mama shouldn’t mean you have to compromise on personal style or identity. If you haven’t arranged a baby bag yet, or just want some pretty inspiration, take a peek at our stylish range of nappy bags.
Make time for love.
Among the chaos of nappies and tears it’s surprisingly easy to forget to give your partner sufficient attention. You’re likely both feeling the effects of stress and sleep deprivation, not to mention getting used to a whole new routine so it is only natural that your usual date nights fall to the bottom of the priority list. We can tell you now that you’re not the first couple to feel like this and you won’t be the last but it is important to take the time out of your day to appreciate each other, whether it’s a ‘have a great day’ text or bringing home a coffee for your other half who had a restless night with bub – it’s the little things that count.
Capture the little nothings.
Because everyone knows they aren’t really nothings at all. Years to come you’ll huddle around a photo album (or a Facebook album) and “aww” and “ahh” at all of the firsts. It’s completely up to you whether you choose to share these intimate early moments, but either way, having them is priceless.